Having mentioned my fiancee in the last post, I felt compelled to say something about the phenomena of romancing the lady of my dreams. (And let this be something of a check and balance for those of you guys who think you are too "modern" to respect a woman for who she is."
Watching a romance movie today seems like watching two people meet, have a one-night stand, and somehow manage to stay together for more than a week or so before falling into a marriage that neither saw coming to riotous laughter and applause. Now, I am one guy who is not afraid to enjoy a good "Rom-Com" as they are called today, with much twitching and shuddering from myself. For some of you, may I be the first to warn you that this image of a romance is NOTHING like the real thing.
To begin, romance did not always simply mean courting the girl, but rather meant an adventure with knights and heroes of old who went on quests, and happened to have something of a love interest along the way. Nowadays, when someone says "romance" we immediately think of a candlelit room with roses and a fancy, expensive meal (with possibly a white or red tablecloth and wine glasses filled with sparkling grape juice and extra cutlery... but those are merely trifling details of an overactive imagination.) How did developing a lasting, meaningful relationship deteriorate into the romantic comedy? Personally, I have no answer, but I could spend hours, which neither of us have, in order to explain my particular beliefs in the matter.
Romance is more than flowers and candles, although they do help on occasion. It is opening a door for a lady (this includes your car, fellows); looking into her eyes; listening to her conversation (no matter how mundane or emotional it may seem at the time, there will be a quiz later); remembering special dates (because they forget too, sometimes); and numerous other small details that encompass the courtship process.
So, for now, I shall expound on the foreign concept of eye contact. This seemingly insignificant task could increase or decrease your chances of success in any relationship, especially with a female. While, admittedly, the female form remains a beguiling thing of utmost beauty, every once in a while they do find themselves uncomfortable under the unwavering stare of a nearby male. A glance and smile, perhaps may get across the same point without undo gawking, and for goodness sake do not let your mouth hang open like some kind of primitive fish gasping for oxygen.
Eye contact tells her (or him, should you be speaking to a male) that you are concerned with what is being said and are present in that moment. Females, from what I have gathered, find it most fascinating and endearing when their man boasts the rare ability to tell her, in as creative words as he can, the shades and hues of her eyes and how lovely he finds them. (My fiancee's are a lovely Prussian blue with fire streaks of gray, sparkling with flecks of gold.) Now, this particular detailed description should be saved for later down the track of courting, otherwise you will seem overzealous and forward. Instead, when you find yourself in a courting situation, simply comment on the general colour of her eyes, and she will appreciate the compliment.
I will end this post with a caveat, the advice and suggestions given here do not necessarily imply the self-righteous man who has achieved perfection on this mortal coil. In fact, it is just the opposite, findings by an imperfect man written to instruct and save his fellow men from falling into the trap of vulgarity and commonplace. The Gentleman will always stand out from the common herd, for his virtue, manners, and honor. He may not be perfect, but he strives with all due effort toward his personal best.
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